Am I lovable just as I am, or do I need to change to be loved?

Big thanks to Cheri Huber, and her book “Be the person you want to find“. Much of this wisdom is hers, paraphrased by myself. We are all conditioned according to the environment we grew up in. Just as our caregivers were conditioned dependent on the way they grew up. The environment may be steeped deep… Continue reading Am I lovable just as I am, or do I need to change to be loved?

Healthy boundaries

I recently listened to a fantastic webcast by Dr. Gabor Mate’, wherein he talks about healthy boundaries, what they represent and how to set them. He likens a healthy boundary to our immune system, where this is the personal protection from toxicity. If our immune system were to breakdown, our physical body would be exposed… Continue reading Healthy boundaries

Listen to understand

Are we listening so as to understand what the other is saying to us? or are we listening to misunderstand them? While we would never believe we would intentionally do the latter, most of the time, most of us are doing exactly that. Our protective shields of conditioning and ego stories are constantly talking to… Continue reading Listen to understand

Forgiveness

When we feel hurt by a situation or behaviors in our external world, our internal life feels stabbed and wounded. What do we do with this? Do we immediately plot our revenge and lash out, do we withdraw into hurting victims, licking our wounds in private, or do we forgive and move on? Most of… Continue reading Forgiveness